Wow, it's been awhile. Part 3 of 3: The Sweet Girl

So... life got in the way, but here I am again to demolish the other half of the entitled coin: the Sweet Girl.

Now, let's make one thing perfectly clear. A Sweet Girl is not interested in you. She is interested in her syrupy sweet fantasy of what love is supposed to be. She is in love with love, and human realities are way too icky and cumbersome to deal with. She's the girl the media likes to accuse Disney of having raised, but even Disney throws a few little tangles in now and again to mess up that perfect compatibility of spirit that the Sweet Girl seems so hung up on.

Now, I'm not saying perfect compatibility of spirit does not exist, because I have seen examples of lovers or friends who are in such perfect harmony that they may as well be one person. No coolness, no arguments... but there are still issues. The only difference is, the people with this sort of true compatibility see issues and tackle them as a team. The Lala-land fairytale of the Sweet Girl doesn't even allow for the existence of these issues. It's impossible that who she chooses will prefer a cool bedroom with the fan running when she likes it toasty. It's totally impossible that there will be a night when all the smoke alarm batteries die at 3 AM. No way will the Man of her Dreams constantly unroll his socks before doing the laundry or forget which day the recycling goes out until there are enough empty bottles to build a replica QE2. Because it's often not the big crises, it's tiny little annoyances. In her romance-soaked brain, she can see the two of them handling disapproving parents. They can weather the storms of poverty! Their love will keep them warm when all the world rejects them! But will it keep them warm when she forgets to pay the heating bill?

Besides the romantic images completely forgetting to take the little annoyances of reality into account, there's also the problem that she really expects a psychic communion of love, and if it doesn't exist, she is deeply disturbed. Jokes abound on women expecting men to be mindreaders, but the average woman has learned that the average man can't read her thoughts. However, there's still a message out there that "If he really loved me, he would really know what the problem is", and that gets into the heads of some gullible young girls. If you are unfortunate enough to have caught yourself one of these, try having a long heart-to-heart with her.